Friday, December 11, 2020
How did we do with the Novel Corona Virus response?
Tuesday, December 8, 2020
"People don't change"
I've heard that my whole life, "People don't change", "they just get older and uglier", "they just get fatter", or worst, "they just learn to hide it better".
But, I've changed. The person I was in my teens and twenties is so different than me now that I can't believe I was ever like I was back then.
And, no, I haven't changed completely. The seeds of who I am now existed all the way back in first grade.
People in their thirties start noticing the changes. They say things like, "I guess I'm growing up" and less wonderful things like, "I guess I'm getting old". Old should be older, but both are right.
By forty, many of us were trying to grasp that, well, life might very well be half over. No one was ID'ing us anymore in liquor store or clubs. No one was commenting on how well you we were doing for our age unless we became POTUS. People look askance at you when you say you are thinking about going back to school. But you still feel pretty good. Unless you have smoked or drank alot and sunbathed alot and have really bad genes, you probably don't have too many wrinkles. If you aren't still in shape, you feel like you could get back into shape.
By fifty, your definitely hitting middle age. Clothing choices have changed with comfort and appropriateness to the situation outweigh the possibility of some great complements for the daring fashion statement. No one tells you that your jewelry choices are too big or to bold unless you start wearing hello kitty necklaces or get your nose pierced for the next staff meeting. And nobody asks about your kids, they ask if you have grandkids, even if your kid is only 8. A fancy sports car means midlife crisis not successful and fun. Hitting the club every night means you're an alcoholic. You think back to your teen years, and finally admit that you were no where near as together as you thought at the time. (if you were really self-observant, you may have noticed this by your late thirties, but when you raised your own kids seems to have an impact on this bit of self-awareness).
By sixty, you are getting a little touchy about people treating you like you are getting old, over-the-hill, a fuddy-duddy, no longer capable of running with the young shakers and movers(if richer than god, you may not get this message, but they are thinking it). You can fight it, try really hard to keep the gray out of the hair, the wrinkles at bay, the middle age spread from ruining the clothing lines. You can learn the new lingo, and treat the people your age worse than the 30 year olds do. Or, you can retire ASAP and do what you want.
But when dealing with people older than you, at any age, never forget---they have been your age. They have lived it. Maybe they didn't examine it, preferring denial, but somewhere in there, they know something about what it is like to be you.
And, they know about change. Self-change.
Some change is slow and hard to see; may take years to grasp that the anxious and self-conscious child you were is completely gone.
Some change is fast, a moment of insight, the knowledge that much as you want something, that is not realistic,that you can never alter yourself enough to succeed or that you can not actually change another person to fit your desires.
And change is not the enemy.
There is nothing more pathetic than a person who is exactly the same person they were at 16. They have not grown, not up, not more mature, not more self-aware. Thank god that doesn't happen that often.
People change daily.
Change is a sign of adaptability---that is the thing that makes us humans so good at surviving.
Tuesday, December 1, 2020
LIFE!
We have people griping about politicians trying to "give our money to people that aren't doing anything to earn it". We have people griping about democrats trying to cancel student loans and make vaccines for the novel corona virus free to everyone. We have people griping about homeless people making their towns look too ugly for tourists and griping about people trying to make them wear masks for a stinking "cold".
We have a lot of griping.
But what do we all have in common?
What do we have in common with our fellow countrymen (and women--for years, I thought that women were included in that, sort of like the editorial "we".)
What do we all have in common with the people in other countries?
Life! We are all alive. We are all just trying to live our life; to survive as best we can.
And, we also share that with all the other mammals and birds and reptiles and amphibians and invertebrates and plants and fungus and bacteria and viruses.
Humans are not the only life.
We have been acting like we are the only life for several millennia, but acting is-well, it's acting. Charlton Heston, Groucho Marx, Alanis Morrisette, George Burns and Morgan Freeman played God. They were acting the part of God. It didn't make them God.
And acting doesn't make us the only life.
Humans are just as dependent upon the other life on this planet as we are upon the sun.
I remember a student in class arguing with the teacher about photosynthesis and plants and how important they are to human survival. His stand was that they only ate meat and wonder bread. His family was fine, so the teacher was wrong.
Unfortunately, we have a lot of people with this attitude, or with the worse one, that God made all that other life for us to do with as we wished. Some focus on good stewardship of the land, but seems to mean exploiting every plant, animal and mineral that can make our life easier.
We spew insecticides, plastic waste, petroleum fumes, and manufacturing toxins into our air, land and water. Destroying whole species while ignoring the plight of our poorer human lifeforms.
And we gripe.
We gripe a lot.
We ignore signs of intelligence and emotion in other lifeforms, thus making it easier to destroy them for profit. It's like not naming our food but on a grander scale.
It's time for us to examine ourselves, not for signs of life, but for signs of humanity, of compassion, and humility.
We well-off Americans are not alone on the planet. Everything is not ours to use.
We can't survive without all of us, human, animal, plant.
But we can eliminate ourselves long before the sun goes out if we don't figure out what is actually important.
LIFE!
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